The Gurus Are Not Always Right

guru-771783_1280Last week I saw a video clip of Brendan Burchard telling us that for too long that the personal development industry had focused on changing limiting beliefs and that it was time to focus on what we wanted and stop all the inner soul searching.  In fact he called limiting beliefs a myth.

Really?

Sounds to me like more Law of Attraction triteness.

Like many of us, who first come across the notion that we can create our reality with our thoughts, we jump on board, eager to finally step into the life that seems to come to others so easily.

On my computer and on older hard drives, you could find hundreds of audios, CD’s, hypnosis tapes, kindle books, mindset programs and brain entrainment stuff all designed to rewire my mind to create that life I was promised.

Oh, and I’m not someone who listens for a few days and then makes excuses.  If the program said it was 30 days, then that’s what I did.  Over and over again.

I followed this path religiously for a decade before I finally accepted that this way was not going to work for me.

And here’s why.

My old programming was too strong.  My old version of myself and what’s possible for me kept leaking through. And ‘sabotaging’ me.  Then I would give up temporarily and fall into despair before I dusted myself off and bought another program.

But it’s true.  Some people can simply rewire their brains and upgrade to a higher version of what’s possible easily. Brendan Burchard is one of those people.  After I watched the video, I checked him out on Wiki.  This is what I found.

“Burchard has an impressive track record from a young age, holding numerous positions of responsibility throughout his school, college and university years. He was managing editor for America’s #1 ranked student newspaper, conducted workshops on romantic relationships and communication and chartered a peer mediation program.

Burchard taught public speaking courses, worked as a peer counselor, and served as a commissioned facilitator and mediator for his university. He maintained a 4.0 GPA throughout. Burchard graduated from The University of Montana with a BA in political science and an MA in organizational communication.”

Now nothing against Mr Burchard and good luck to him, but success from a young age usually means a pretty good home life with parents who treated him well and who were encouraging and supportive.  And it means good role models. Of course I could be wrong about this.

What does early success mean to adult success? Pretty much everything.  Early success means that you have been programmed to expect success, to know that you have the ability, talent and motivation to achieve what you wants. And you know that you are worthy of success. And you believe it will happen.

Is that the same for you?  I was not programmed for that.  In fact, quite the opposite.

It’s OK for Brendan to say that limiting beliefs are a myth because for him they are, but to assume that we all start with a level playing field and that we can simply focus on what we want is both arrogant and wrong. I could call it a few other things but I’ll refrain.

If you started life with a dysfunctional family, experienced abuse, neglect or abandonment (even emotionally) then good luck with focussing on that magical life.

That’s not to say that everyone who has experienced these things will find it difficult to succeed.  I’m way beyond making such generalisations, but if you have struggled like I have to make your life work for you, know that it is possible, very possible but it takes extra work.

I call the process required Emptying your Sh#t Bucket. And it works, especially if you use energy techniques and not rely on the conscious mind to make the changes. I use this analogy to describe it.

We can’t paint over dirty wall because the cracks will soon appear. 

Painting Over Dirty Walls

We need to sand and smooth and prep the rough walls before the paint will stick.

What that means in a personal development sense is that old programming must be undone first. If you grew up in an environment like described above, you might need to let go of the belief like you are not enough or that you really aren’t worthy or that perhaps you simply don’t have what it takes to create the life we want.

Because if you don’t then you will sabotage yourself or experience limiting results.

Even if you did not grow up in a harsh environment, if you are sensitive, an empath or a lightworker then perhaps you’ve taken on beliefs that are blocking you around money or self worth that need shifting.

The gurus are not always right.  And there is no one system fits all. We all have to find what works for us.

Emptying my bucket is what worked for me.  Now I can concentrate on just rewiring my brain. If you’d like to learn more about this, join with me here or schedule a 20 minute Discovery Call to see what you need to get you firing on all cylinders.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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4 Responses to The Gurus Are Not Always Right

  1. Marina August 16, 2016 at 7:09 pm #

    But in the meantime – we can paint our walls pink 😉

    I totally agree with you Madonna. I had to laugh when reading your post – Brendon (and I love his ideas and delivery to bits) is a white dude with an education. When I hear younger Australian white dudes with an education talking about how some people should just shut up and get a job – I talk to them about privilege. They don’t realise that to just wake up in a warm room, without gun fire, warm running water and food in the fridge and access to education has them placed above the majority of people in the world. It’s usually a humbling conversation.

    I find Mr Burchard lives in a bubble, like many who reach the pinnacle of their industry. I agree that we need to focus on what we want and move towards it, as taking action can fill those cracks along the way and too much ‘navel gazing’ can cause you not to move on at all. But ignore your past and any negative thoughts and you’ll most likely trip up along the way.

    • Madonna August 17, 2016 at 9:48 am #

      Thank you Marina for your response. I decided this morning after sitting with my I am Enough group and hearing their storiesthat my response to his video was weak and didn’t go far enough. Another one is on the way.

  2. Desi Stefanova August 19, 2016 at 9:23 am #

    Hi Madonna,
    I really enjoyed your argument because you sounded exactly like me!
    When it comes to rewriting the subconscious mind with beliefs that serve our goals, I totally agree with you! I also support your view on children’s home environment and its importance for the future success of the adult. I’m currently working on launching an e-course targeting children’s learning through working with their parents. From my practise as a primary school teacher I can see why some children excel while others fail at their learning and that triggered the idea for the need to educate the parents in order for them to “nurture and raise successful children”. Your metaphor of emptying the Sh#t bucket is spot-on! There’s so much sh#t that needs emptying, it’s unbelievable!
    Lots of love to you and your work!

    • Madonna August 19, 2016 at 10:14 am #

      Hi Desi, Thanks for your response. I appreciate you taking the time to do so. It’s easy to read and run. I can so relate to you as I was a high school teacher and know exactly what you’re talking about. Highest thoughts to you and yo the work you do. Madonna

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