How to Stop Being Triggered

sparkler-667544_1920It’s easy to say ‘Stop being triggered,’ but how do you stop it? How do you stop other people from triggering your emotions? How do you not take things personally, feel hurt, angry or even enraged when someone pushes your buttons?

Some of us seem to be able to do this automatically. (These people are one step away from being saints) I am not one of those people. Some of us seem to be able to do it with a reasonable amount of self talk. I am not one of those people. Some breathe through it and some drop into their heart. Apparently that works for many as well. Maybe meditation would work, but not for me.

In my (much) younger years I was nicknamed the Angry Ant in my family. I was triggered by just about anything, unmade beds, dishes in the sink, people changing their minds if my plans were disrupted, rudeness, aggressive people (lol) and the list was endless. Today, it takes a great deal for me to be triggered by what anyone else does.

So, how did I make this shift? And I’m not talking about repressing my emotions. If you had ever witnessed the full extent of my emotions, you would know that wasn’t possible.

The vehicle was Tapping. Every single time I was triggered, I tapped on the emotions and nearly always it was revealed to me that being triggered emotionally was little more than self judgement which I then projected onto others. In the process I learned to rewire my brain to take 100% responsibility for what I feel. I learned that being triggered gave me an opportunity for growth, personal and spiritual. It taught me that everything has a purpose, that we create all our situations in order to grow and that everyone is really our teacher. And it made me far less judgemental and much more compassionate. And much less self critical.

These days at the slightest irritation, I ask for the learning. It’s always about me. Always. No exceptions.

The upside of not being triggered is that those who would normally trigger you, stop showing up in your life.  In other words, you find less and less to be triggered by. It’s like you got the lesson they were trying to teach you and moved on.  How cool is that?

If you’d like me to show you how you can stop being triggered by others, let’s make it happen.  Or if you’re not ready for a chat, download the ebook The Five Minute Miracle from this site.  It explains Tapping, what to use if for and how it really is a miracle. That’s Magic.  Mindset Magic.

4 Responses to How to Stop Being Triggered

  1. Maureen Shaw October 19, 2015 at 10:53 am #

    People know they have emotional triggers but they don’t often understand how their reaction to triggers affect those they love. Living with my ex-husband left us all walking on egg shells not knowing what was going to set off a tirade of abuse. Eventually, I left him because he refused to see there was a problem.

  2. Madonna October 19, 2015 at 11:02 am #

    Thanks for that Maureen. We can only stop being triggered when we decide we have had enough. The post was mainly for those who are triggered, because only they can make changes. I never thought about the impact on others. Another very good reason to learn how to stop being triggered.
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  3. Rosemary
    October 19, 2015 at 8:19 pm #

    I love the line about the fact that it is always about ‘me’ and it is so true and that knowledge enables me to pull back from the initial reaction and instead step back into a peaceful place. It doesn’t always work if I am not being deliberate about it but I am certainly better than I used to be. Great post.
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    • Madonna June 20, 2016 at 12:57 pm #

      And I’m sure you are a lot better and that it increases every day. I am impressed with your daily output on social media. You are a powerhouse and very inspiring. Thanks for commenting on my post. I really appreciate it.

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