Imagine if you had a tool that could change perception at will, with virtually no resistance from the conscious mind. Think about all the things you are not happy with right now. Wouldn’t it be great if you could see them differently?
Wayne Dyer says, ‘Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.’
How easy is it though to change the way you look at things? For me, it seems virtually impossible. I don’t know if that means I’m stubborn, set in my ways or just plain stupid. I do know that no matter how hard I try I can not change my mind about certain things because I want to.
A long while ago I was having a really hard time with my teenage son. All of my friends were telling me that he’d get over it, that things weren’t so bad and that it could be much worse. I was also told to stop sweating the small stuff, not to worry about the multitude of ways I thought he was ruining his life and to be patient. But, no matter how much I would have liked to be able to think that way, I couldn’t.
Some of you might say I chose not to think differently. That might be true, but for me it seemed impossible. There was too much at stake.
I am not alone in this inability or unwillingness to change the way I think at will. Millions of people worry and stress about aspects of their lives they do not like or feel powerless over.
But, regardless of this tendency to worry and stress, problems can become a matter of perception, even for me. The tagline for this blog is Change Your Mindset About Anything In Minutes. The reason I choose this as my tagline is because I was so excited when I found a technique that enable me to do just that.
I am an avid student of personal development and every day I watch videos and read blogs and books that tell me that to change my thinking I only need to change my focus or to reframe the situation. Well, I must be missing something, because that never has worked for me not even once.
These ‘techniques’ and actually I hesitate to call them techniques, work with the conscious mind. To my way of thinking, trying to get the conscious mind to change the way the conscious mind operates is like trying to get a racist to teach that racism is wrong. It does not compute for me.
The technique that allows me to change the way I perceive any situation within minutes, works on my energy system, not my conscious mind. There is saying, ‘We teach what we most need to learn,’ and that is so true in my case. After weeks of complaining and worrying about my son, I took my own advice and applied the technique to my issues with my gorgeous boy and presto, like magic, my perception changed.
Does that mean all our issues are resolved? Of course not. But now I am not stressed and angry all the time. Does that mean he does not push my buttons as his job description dictates? Of course not. But it happens far less often. Does that mean we get on well all the time? No, but our relationship has drastically improved because my perception has changed and therefore I don’t react in the same way.
What would you like to be able to change your perception about within minutes? That annoying work colleague? The price of petrol? Your lack of money or clients? That insult you got yesterday? Your partner’s insensitivity? Your bully boss?
It doesn’t matter what perception you would like to shift. It can happen easily and quickly. Everything is energy; thoughts are energy, problems are energy, perception is energy. It makes perfect sense to me to use energy to transform energy because there is virtually no resistance from your conscious mind.
If you would like to learn how to change your own perception at will, investigate Emotional Freedom Technique. You’ll find thousands of videos on YouTube. If you would like to completely resolve an issue, this technique can also be used, but it will take more than a few minutes. Alternatively, seek a professional energy therapist if you’d like to resolve an issue that’s stressing you. Many times, one consultation is all that is needed for that to happen.
Please leave a comment and tell me what you’d like to be able to change your perspective on quickly.
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Sometimes the hardest mind to change is our own. I find that, when I am stuck in a certain way of thinking, it is best to talk it out with others that can share a different point of view. When I’m open to hearing other points of view, I can easily accept what they are telling me. When I’m not (usually because my perspective is benefiting me in some way), then nothing they or I do will change it.
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Hi Nicole,
I agree the hardest mind to change is your own, but I suppose it does depend on the circumstances. I usually have no problem with other peoples points of view. What is most difficult for me are judgements that relate to me personally.
Thanks for your comments Nicole. They are always welcome.
Madonna
Love it Madonna. I too had a teenager that stressed me last year, reading your blog felt like you were talking to me. It was through a lot of work on myself that I was able to let go and choose the way way I thought and reacted and boy are we both happier for it. What you do sounds amazing. This year I feel like I have made a huge shift in my conscuoisness & all for the better. Thankyou for the great, reminders & thought provoking Blog. You ask what could I change my perspective on, well at the moment I’m jumping with enthusiasm & I just don’t seem to be able to find the time to fit it all in, despite quitting my regular unsatisfying job.
Ceinie xo
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Hi Ceinie,
Thanks for your comprehensive response. I love it when readers really speak from a personal perspective. Teenagers can certainly push our buttons, but I’m pleased to hear that you have come out on top of the situation. Love to hear the people are jumping with enthusiasm. Time is a problem for all of us at present I think. We can just do the best we can.
Madonna
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February 22, 2012 at 12:06 pm #
I’ve been reading a little more about your technique, as time has allowed. I must say, I’m fascinated. It seems like a lot of people go out of their way to take things way too personally. I prefer not to get my blood pressure up, if at all possible. Life is just too short to be angry all the time.
Kudos!
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Hi Jenny,
Glad to hear that you have been finding out about EFT. The best way to learn is to do. Think of any issue, problem, concern or perspective you are not entirely happy with. Start tapping.
You might not get a sensational result initially, but you can’t make anything worse. It can only get better.
Have a great day
Madonna
Great blog. If everyone changed the way they viewed things, this world would be a lot calmer place. : )
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Hi Crystal, Changing my perspective has been a huge learning curve for me. But, you’re right. If everyone could change their perspective easily and it is part of my mission to teach them how to do it easily, then the world would be a happier, calmer and more prosperous place.
Thanks for commenting. Much appreciated.
Madonna
Madonna, it is, after all, a matter of perspective and whether we view something as annoying or insulting to us. That’s the reason why people react to the same thing differently – eg the price of petrol annoys some people but not others; the price of petrol is the same, but different people have different reactions to it. Same applies to annoying colleagues, road rage or insults. It always amuses me when I’m driving my car and my passenger leans over to beep the horn in road rage, even though I don’t react to the maniac who’s just cut in front of me…
The question we need to ask is: What’s our vested interest in taking things so personally?
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Hi Hari, I agree with you totally about the idea of the vested interest in taking things personally. I used to take everything personally once. Now hardly ever. But I still find it hard sometimes to get a clear perspective on other more serious aspects. I’m afraid without tapping, I’d wouldn’t be in a good place. Thanks for commenting. I wish more people would, although I won’t take it personally. Lol
Madonna