My earliest memory of feeling like I was ‘not good enough’ was my first day of school. I was convinced that I was not good enough to ‘get school right.’ From then on I was worried, anxious and tense about getting it right every single day and I carried that limiting, negative feeling with me for decades.
Naturally it spilled out into every area of my life like a poison, creating anxiety and dysfunction in relationships, limiting choices and opportunities in career and even impacting on my health. One of the health consequences was a severe case of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, caused by the insane drive for perfection, as well as digestive problems, and a myriad of other physical symptoms. Eventually this ‘not good enough’ feeling drove me into a state of complete despair which eventually culminated in depression. By then I knew I just couldn’t get it right no matter what I did because I was simply ‘not good enough.’
I tried everything that was suggested to reduce this feeling. I attended workshops, read dozens of self help books, wrote love letters to myself, listed my many accomplishments, tried unconscious writing, sprouted affirmations for days on end, engaged in self love meditations, kept journals, and I tried and I tried to stop comparing myself to others and coming off second best.
All in all, I probably spent about 10 years attempting to feel good about myself one way or another. And although I didn’t feel quite as low down the food chain as when I started, that gnawing sense of inferiority and inadequacy was still there, limiting my performance and inhibiting my enjoyment of life.
And then I found the key, the key that changed it all for me, the one thing that I could do that erased all the lies that I had been telling myself.
When I visit self help sites or read blogs that give advice and tips about how to feel good enough, I know those people ‘don’t get it.’ I know that because it doesn’t matter if you have tons of worthwhile achievements under your belt, it doesn’t matter that you have great friends who support you and think you are wonderful, it doesn’t matter what you tell yourself about how intelligent, smart or beautiful you are. It doesn’t matter because that dreaded inadequate feeling is still there, still lurking in the background waiting to derail you again and again.
In order to FEEL good enough, the feeling has to be changed and that can’t be done by thinking differently. That’s what most of the ‘experts’ just don’t seem to get. In order to change a feeling, the emotion or the energy has to be accessed. Energy Psychology is the key that makes all the difference. It allows you to access the ‘energy’ of that feeling and release it, leaving you free from the baggage that has plagued and limited you all your life, just like it did for me.
It doesn’t matter whether you are feeling not pretty enough, not clever enough, not successful enough, not smart enough, not thin enough, not young (or old) enough, I can teach you how to shift those old feelings and turn them into positive, successful and loving ones. You will learn how to rewire the neural pathways in the brain that cause you to feel ‘not good enough,’ and switch them into high energy vibrant ones that finally allow you to feel great about who you are. How awesome is that?
The truth is you are good enough, but when you work with me, I won’t just expect you to believe it. I’ll teach you how to CHANGE that old inferior or inadequate FEELING, to release it energetically and KNOW that you are truly good enough. Are you ready for that?
If you are 100% sure you have had enough of feeling ‘not good enough,’ this is how it works.
Feeling ‘not good enough’ is like driving a porsche in second gear. And with the hand brake on. Madonna Robinson