Are you taking things too personally?

SadWouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone we met in our life and all those we care about either treat us with the utmost love and care or at least with very polite civility? Or wouldn’t it be equally wonderful if on the odd occasion that didn’t happen, we were able to respond instead of reacting and taking it personally. Imagine becoming immune to the reactions or bad behaviour of others.

There is no doubt that one of the things about life that unsettle us the most is our relationships with other people and how they treat us. We give our power to others every single time we react to their behaviour. And that process is highly stressful.

Think about the last time you had a fight or a conflict with someone that made you angry. How long did you dwell on it? How hard was it to stop thinking about it and get your equilibrium back? How hard was it to think about anything else?

I know. It’s hard, isn’t it? But it doesn’t have to be.

Reacting comes from the SHOULD Game. When our partner forgets our birthday, our teenager refuses to show us the respect we feel we deserve or our best friend betrays our trust, we feel that that they ‘should’ have behaved differently. And we immediately run the gamut of anger or hurt or both. And it happens so fast we actually think it’s normal. Or that we have no control over it. We are wrong on both counts.

Quantum physics shows us that we can impact and influence the field around us and that includes the behaviour of others. And we do that by changing aspects of the energy we are carrying in our own field. Once we learn to stop behaving in automated ways and stop letting our emotional bodies control our life, we influence the field in a number of ways.

With repeated non reaction to the behaviour of others, we change the energy in our field and STOP co creating their behaviour towards us. This does not mean that we tolerate poor behaviour. We can take whatever steps we want to change the situation from making rules, leaving those relationships completely or telling them how we feel. Non reaction means that we stop reacting emotionally to behaviour we do not like.

If you are ready to begin having much better relationships with everyone around you including the loves of your life, your ex partner, your boss, your co workers and those pesky tradesmen or service providers, by influencing the field around you and putting you in charge of all the interactions you have with everyone, then let’s chat.

There’s no doubt in my mind that a #lifebydesign is far more fun and less stressful than one created by default. I know. I’ve experienced both.

If you would like to be far less reactive and stop letting others dictate how you feel, why don’t you contact me so that we can reset your emotions.  Or if you’d like to learn more about how to master your emotions and change your mindset, then join us in this Facebook group.  We’d love to have you.

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